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Hearing people, eh? You can’t live with them, you can’t live without them.
Of course, the term ‘hearing people’ only really exists in the deaf world, because hearing folk generally see themselves as being, simply, ‘people.’ But to us Deafies, there’s something distinctive about them. We know there are things that only they would do.
Statistics show that five in six people are hearing. That’s a whopping 50 million people in the UK, and nearly 6 billion people worldwide. They’re literally everywhere.
So, listed for convenience, here are the 10 things we’d rather hearing people did a whole lot less – their very most annoying habits.
Apologies in advance for the low-fi sketches – I got a bit carried away.
1. Overhearing things they aren’t even listening to
“But everyone knew about the party!” their colleague will later say, showing a remarkable lack of awareness of how he even found out in the first place – when he overheard the boss talking to the secretary while he was typing at his computer.
Hearing people listen when they’re not even trying to. They even learn things from the information they overhear. This phenomenon is called incidental learning.
Learning without even meaning to? That’s just ANNOYING.
2. Correcting our pronunciation
Forgetting, of course, that since we don’t hear so well, we may not have heard quite how a word should sound.
It’s embarrassing, but we can’t help it.
So don’t correct us. Let it slide.
We did the speech therapy. It helped, but clearly, it didn’t fully work.
Let’s move on.
3. Being too subtle
There’s no place to hide with sign language. They point at me, puff out their cheeks, then their hands track a big round shape where their tummy is.
I can see just how fat I’ve become. Despite the initial awkwardness, I know in that moment that I need to cut down on the pies and get myself down the gym.
But if a hearing person thinks I’ve become a bit thick of tum, they do everything they can to hide it.
They look me up and down, do a few mental calculations, and then say “You’re looking well.”
Looking well? What they mean is, “You’ve put on a few pounds mate.” You know it, and they know it.
So why can’t they say it?
More on being direct: The sign of the fat man http://www.bbc.co.uk/ouch/features/the-sign-of-the-fat-man.shtml
4. Faking sneezes
While deaf people sneeze naturally, hearing people feel compelled to add sound effects, in the form of that “ah-choo” noise.
All so they can be more socially acceptable.
Stop thinking you’re a better person because you ‘ah-choo,’ my friend.
Sneeze organically. Sneeze fairtrade.
Sneeze as God intended.
More on sneezing: http://limpingchicken.com/2013/04/30/sneezes/
5. Looking away while communicating
As if your conversation isn’t interesting enough, they scan the room for other people who might have arrived. They glance at their iPhones in case they have a new message. Or they just stare at the blank wall behind you.
But, in a world of nearly 6 billion hearing people, one of them saw things differently, and perceived an advantage to the way deaf people interact.
We salute you, Bruno Kahne.
Kahne said in this Limping Chicken interview that hearing people could learn a lot from the way deaf people communicate, because deaf people give you their full attention.
He went on to run training courses in how to do this, and is now writing a book.
He’s dead right. Because we lipread, we have to focus hard on people’s lips (sorry if this makes you uncomfortable. by the way).
Because we’re trying to figure out what you’re saying, we can’t switch off.
Because we’re deaf, we’re forced to really LISTEN.
We give you our full attention.
Why not give us yours?
6. When you go a bit deaf, pretending you don’t need hearing aids
What are they so ashamed of?
Rather than tell people that they don’t understand things from time to time, they pretend they’re not deaf at all. They live in denial.
Soon, their families become frustrated with them for not understanding anything, their neighbours wonder why the television has to be on so loudly all the time, and often, they retreat into a world of their own.
Rather than wear hearing aids and admit they’re a bit deaf, they’d rather be thought of as a bit wacky and random. They’d rather be left out. It’s funny in a way, except it’s also very, very sad.
What’s so bad about being thought of as being deaf, that you’d have to hide it?
More: The shame of wearing hearing aids http://www.bbc.co.uk/ouch/features/the_shame_of_wearing_hearing_aids.shtml
7. Singing in tune
Ok, so this one isn’t something we’d necessarily want to change. We don’t want hearing people to start singing out of tune, that wouldn’t be good for us, you, or anybody (although it’d be a lot of fun if it happened, en-masse, during an episode of The Voice).
We’d just like you to be a little less smug about being able to sing in tune.
When we sing along to a song, like The Beatles’ Let it Be, say, or a song from the musical Joseph, or even Happy Birthday – just for the fun of it, just because we love the tune, or we’re in the moment – leave us be.
Don’t tell us how bad we sound.
Don’t act like we shouldn’t even open our mouths in future for fear of offending your precious ears.
Don’t – whatever you do – proceed to then sing it in tune, to show us how it should be done.
We’re deaf. We wear hearing aids. NHS hearing aids. With waxy molds.
We’re never going to be good singers.
Accept it. Cover your ears.
Let us have our moment.
8. Not telling us your life story
You’re also given exclusive access to their life story.
The exact genetic reason for their deafness. Their family history. Their school. A gritty breakdown of their last two divorces. The state of their current relationship, for good measure.
In roughly the first half hour.
On the other hand, when meeting hearing people, you just find out where they grew up and what job they do.
The rest takes a lifetime to find out.
Really knowing a hearing person takes real commitment, not only to years of friendship, but also years of piecing snippets of information together, while also lipreading what they’re saying.
Just tell us, dear hearing friends – what happened?
Why was your mother in law imprisoned in Cambodia on that family holiday?
We need to know.
Don’t assume… that all deaf people are the same.
Some use sign language, and some lipread. Some like to use a sign language interpreter, others prefer speech-to-text. Some swing both ways on the above, but don’t assume it’s ok to call us ‘swingers’ as a result.
Don’t assume… that because we heard everything you said one day, we’ll hear everything you say the next.
We might be in a noisy place. You might speak less clearly. We might be tired, from, y’know, listening to you all day yesterday.
Don’t assume… you’re cleverer than us because we occasionally mishear something.
You might be cleverer than us, you might not. You won’t know from judging how quickly we make sense of something you say. How about a game of chess?
Basically… don’t assume. Or we’ll assume things about you, too.
Like… you’re not very nice.
Or something along those lines.
10. Shouting at us
Stop mumbling and covering your mouth, or looking around the room.
Look at me, and maybe slow down a little bit.
Whatever you do, don’t start SHOUTING at me.
It doesn’t help me to understand you.
And it makes me feel a bit scared.
Enjoy reading this list? Now check out the 10 annoying habits of deaf people! It’s only fair…
Have you noticed any annoying hearing habits not listed above? Tell us below!
DISCLAIMER: This site apologises to deaf-aware hearing people who are guilty of none of the above, and also acknowledges that not all of you are like this. Just some of you. Quite a lot of you.
Charlie Swinbourne is the Editor of Limping Chicken, as well as being a journalist and an award-winning scriptwriter. He writes for the Guardian and BBC Online, and as a scriptwriter, penned the films My Song, Coming Out and Four Deaf Yorkshiremen.
The Limping Chicken is the UK’s deaf blogs and news website, and is the world’s most popular deaf blog. It is edited by Deaf journalist and filmmaker Charlie Swinbourne.
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