Valli Gideons: Things I want people to know about my deaf kids

If you speak in a quiet voice, they can not hear you.

When they are in a place with background noise, it is tough to hear (outdoors, a gym, a restaurant, on the playground, near the ocean).

If they don’t hear you the first time; don’t get frustrated. Just repeat it. No need to shout.

People who are deaf or hard of hearing make very different choices; there is not a one-size-fits-all way to navigate hearing loss. It is a personal experience.

Avoid covering your mouth when you speak; they can’t read your lips if they can’t see your mouth.

Tap them on the shoulder before you speak to them.

If you talk from across the room or with your back turned, they will miss most or all of what you say.

Don’t leave them out, by saying, “never mind.”  It’s isolating.

When the magnet on the device is off, the cochlear implant does not work, and they can’t hear anything.

Be patient.  Frustration cuts. Kids who are deaf often read body language better than the average person.

Most people born deaf never know the cause.

Listening with implants is exhausting. Kids need time to decompress, or they will act out. It is harder than it looks.

Understanding social nuances is really challenging when you are hard of hearing.

In the end, they are resilient, adaptable kids living in a hearing world trying to find their way.

Valli Gideons is a military bride who writes about raising kids with cochlear implants, military life, and other things from the heart. Her work can be found on Facebook at www.facebook.com/mybattlecall and IG atwww.instagram.com/mybattlecall and on my blogwww.valligideons.wordpress.com