As anyone who reads my Deaf Mum column will have noticed, cochlear implants have been quite a hot topic of conversation for me recently.
And when I say hot, I mean scorching. Having been burned by both sides of all the arguments over the years, I thought it was about time someone tried to look at the main points objectively.
Then I remembered it’s impossible to be truly objective, so I just did my best and then went to play with my boy instead. This is where I got to before my head exploded; enjoy.
Cochlear implants are child abuse
This is such a grey area; I’m slightly afraid of it.
Some people say that to give a child a CI is pretty much the same as abusing them, as Rita Symonds found in last year’s documentary “My Daughter, Deafness and Me”.
At any age before they are old enough to consent, a child who is implanted has had that decision taken away from them.
They have been through an operation, and all the risks it entails, to try and restore some level of hearing to them, when nobody can say for sure whether they even want to hear.
The general assumption is that of course the child will want to hear. Who wouldn’t? Being able to hear is ‘the norm’.
But this is where deafness is different to other disabilities; being deaf might not be ‘the norm’, but there is this whole other community where, actually, it is normal.
There’s a lot of support, there are others in the same situation and there’s even a brilliant officially recognised language. Which raises the question; if a CI gives you access to sound, does being deaf in the first place give you access to BSL?
Well, it definitely should… Which is where the grey area comes into play again; if an implanted child is raised to be part of both the deaf and hearing world, they gain from each.
But if they are left to live an unsupported ‘hearing life’, it’s not going to be good… I suspect this is what gives rise to at least some of the ‘abuse’ debates.
So, why can’t a child be left alone to be part of the deaf world, until they are old enough to decide if they want to be implanted, and have a go at hearing something?
Well, obviously, they can, and some parents opt for this. By making this decision, they have also decided that their child’s formative years will be silent, but they have given over all control to them, which is very powerful.
However, implanting a toddler, whose brain is designed to grow and learn and adapt, will have a different result to implanting a teenager, whose brain, while still adaptable, is much more rigid.
Cochlear implants are like everything else; there are pros and cons.
But I can’t find any shred of evidence that they could be classed as actual child abuse, which is truly horrific and incomparable.
And, to be honest, I think trying to compare the two does nothing for the cochlear implant debate, whichever side you stand on.
Cochlear implants will fix you
Here we are! My personal despair over cochlear implants. Once again, I’m not sure if it balances out, but let’s have another go.
A cochlear implant will not fix you. It will not fix your baby.
It will not fix your mother’s friend’s cousin, twice removed, who happens to be called Fontania.
Nothing can fix being called Fontania. Just as, currently, nothing can ‘fix’ being deaf.
Sure, there are seemingly endless techniques, technologies and treatments that can restore some, or most, access to sound. But if you are deaf, you are always going to be deaf. A cochlear implant will not change that.
Even if it were to miraculously give you 100% hearing, a cochlear implant will not ‘fix your ears’. You can only hear when you wear it, and when it is working.
And you will never get 100% hearing from a machine which uses less than ten ‘receivers’ (electrodes) to process sound that would naturally be processed by thousands of ‘receivers’ (hairs).
It won’t be ‘perfect’, but you might well get some benefit that makes it worthwhile. You might get a benefit beyond your wildest imagining. You might get nothing at all.
But, more than anything at all, I hope you don’t get anyone telling you that you will be ‘fixed’.
In the interest of balancing this out, I have to say, it is possible that a CI can ‘fix you.’ It is possible that a hearing aid can ‘fix you.’
But in order for that to happen, you have to first view your deafness as a problem, an injury, something ‘other’ that isn’t really a part of you and needs to be got rid of.
And if you’ve got those kind of issues with identity, I’m not convinced that being able to hear is going to, well, fix everything.
Cochlear implants damage deaf culture
I am really struggling to find a balanced argument for this one.
There seems to be a significant number of deaf people who will ferociously argue the awful impact CIs have on the deaf community, and therefore deaf culture.
Perhaps I’m wrong, but isn’t it impossible for CIs themselves to have any impact on, well, anything outside of a person’s hearing levels?
Cochlear implants are not marching down Whitehall waving placards and chanting “Down With Deafhood!”
People, on the other hand, have the biggest impact of all.
There are deaf people in respected positions who will not work with other deaf people who have been implanted.
There are groups who will not allow members with CIs, whether they expressly admit it or not.
It is not difficult to find a deaf person who feels anyone with a CI has ‘sold out’ and somehow betrayed their deaf identity; it’s a more widespread view than any of us might think.
But, why? Why exactly do these people automatically assume anyone with a CI is ashamed of being deaf, or trying to be hearing, or any other negative thing?
Everybody is different, and surely there will be some people with CIs who don’t identify as deaf, or Deaf.
There are also people with hearing aids, or BAHAs, or no hearing at all who choose not to be part of the deaf community.
But it seems to be only the CIs that are the mark of evil and, as I say, I can’t find a genuine, balanced reason why.
It appears to be just an ideal that people hold without really knowing why. Which is a shame.
If there are deaf people who allow others’ CIs to anger them, and divide their community, I’m afraid I can’t understand why.
Really, why?
Why is there a certain level of animosity reserved for CIs over, say, hearing aids? Why is there this clear and ever-present negativity?
I could understand anger towards doctors or professionals, or even ignorant family members who push CIs onto others as ‘the only solution to deafness’.
I could understand anger towards anyone who flaunts a CI as making them better than other deaf people (though I’ve not met such a person).
But, just general negativity towards people with CIs, or parents trying to find out more options… I just don’t get it.
Can’t we just accept everyone as part of our lovely, rich, diverse community? And be stronger for it?
Emily Howlett is a Contributing Editor to this site. She is a profoundly Deaf actress, writer, horsewoman and new mum. Emily used to be found all over the place, but motherhood has turned her into somewhat of a self-confessed homebody. She now has not one, but four grey eyebrow hairs. C’est la vie. She tweets as @ehowlett
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Ian Grasmeder
September 12, 2014
Interesting topic that rumbles on. Born hearing, brought up as a deaf person, done the Mary Hare run, implanted at 23 and now in my 40s am beginning to discover my deaf identity which is exciting for me. Having a cochlear implant didn’t remove the fact I am profoundly deaf. It certainly made life a whole lot easier in the hearing world and allowed me to provide for my family by getting a better job. One thing remains, I will always be deaf no matter what. In any case, I’m grateful to be able to have access to both Deaf and hearing worlds. It has made life so much more richer being a part of both.
Sandra Dowe
September 12, 2014
We need more feedback from people all ages who have been implanted. Good to see Ian’s response.
Aled Owen
September 12, 2014
Thanks Emily for casting a light into a corner of the world that I wasn’t aware of. Somebody once said that being blind meant you don’t see the world but being deaf meant you are cut off from the world. Obviously some people disagree.
I started losing my hearing 15 years ago (I am now 70) and my CI has been a life changing event. As you say it doesn’t restore perfect hearing but it does mean I can get back to doing what I wanted to do and what others want me to do. I am also a boring advocate of loops that work, for example, in the hope that others can hear plays in theaters – something that those that can hear just don’t understand or try and understand.
John David Walker
September 12, 2014
There were a couple of videos from adult deaf people who had cochlear implants as a child and claimed they were abused. In both cases, the implant did not work. It wasn’t the implant that was the abuse, but the experience of being operated on unnecessarily, which prevented them from having a childhood they hoped for. Also, the experience manifested in feelings of failure and parents feeling guilty for permitting an operation on their child without a positive result.
The experience of ‘abuse’ is a subjective one because the position of powerlessness can be traumatic. I am a little suspect about people making a claim of abuse unless they have actually experienced it. In the examples I have seen, they wanted to make a claim they were abused. I think that experience should be listened to, regardless of the fact that it may be in the minority.
It is a shame that Limping Chicken has yet to look into this properly. I am disappointed to read that “I can’t find any shred of evidence that they could be classed as actual child abuse, which is truly horrific and incomparable.” Is that because there is no evidence, or the researchers have yet to find examples, or it has yet to be reported because people are not yet ready to listen and respect these stories.
Again, I have to remind you what I said when Charlie has looked at this subject. Limping Chicken has yet to talk to the actual person who made the claim that “CI is abuse” in the BBC programme. I think it is worth having a chat with her and see her side, especially about BBC’s habits in the cutting room and the conversations the group had before the claim was made. For some reason, Limping Chicken isn’t able to explore more controversial points and try to understand their context because, until those conversations take place, there is no way we can even begin to start understanding this debate.
Editor
September 12, 2014
Hi John,
As the Editor of the site I’d like to make three points –
First, blogs on the site are the viewpoint of their author. Although I discuss articles with writers, I don’t work with them to come up with a ‘Limping Chicken perspective’ – or edit out things I disagree with. What we publish, and this is fundamental to how I edit the site – are opinions I think are worth reading and discussing (and I strongly believe this falls into that category).
Second, to some degree it is up to people out there to tell us what they feel strongly about. We’ve published all kinds of stories in the last two and a half years and I believe we have covered positives and negative views when it comes to cochlear implants. If there are people out there who feel that they were abused in some way linked to having CI’s fitted, I would work with them to publish that point of view, just as I would with any other story.
Thirdly, there’s been no deliberate decision not to pursue an interview with that person (in the Rita Simons documentary). I’d be happy to interview her, the problem has been that up until now, no-one seems to know who she is. I haven’t met anyone who knows her and I don’t personally know her. If you do know who she is, and she is happy for me to contact her, then I would be happy to do so – just email me and pass on her contact.
Thanks
Charlie
Natalya
September 12, 2014
I went to City Lit’s deaf day for the first time last year, I got off the train at Holborn Underground Station and following the signing people to our destination, I didn’t need to use my prepared map. I found myself walking behind 3 young women in their late teens or early 20s, all 3 had funky coloured cochlea implant processors and head-magnets and all 3 were signing to one another as they walked down the street. Every now and then they’d switch between signing and speech. They seemed confident and happy. I was envious of their signing skills and ability/option to switch but very happy for them that in this snapshot of their lives they seemed to have both options.
I’m working my way through Paddy Ladd’s book on deafhood and my understanding of what he is saying is about a bilingual and bicultural approach to deafness, deafhood and the hearing world. I can’t help but feeling varying levels of bilingualism is the hoped for outcome for everyone, so those who cannot access speech and hearing are as included as hearing people who have learned some sign because to learn sign would be normal and easy. Most of the deaf people I have met in person and online would like deaf people to be able to sign AND access hearing and speech and have good English written literacy skills.
I don’t buy the CIs are child abuse from the deaf world and I think that is changing slowly, some people might refuse to engage with a CI user, but increasingly at signing deaf events there are more and more CI users in the crowd, I can’t tell that their sign is better or worse than anyone else’s.
However there are a LOT of misconception about CIs in the hearing world. I think the rehab for a child with a CI is probably about the same hours/effort as the learning curve for BSL for a hearing parent even if they are otherwise very different.
The CI makes the parent feel in charge although Andy Palmer’s recent post about child-led habilitation and learning and language was a good reminder about using that parental control/power for good. Medics can present the CI as an answer and some are still trotting out the hateful, damaging and audist “don’t sign, it will make the CI less good” despite all the EXTENSIVE research evidence to the contrary. I’m a BAHA user and one of my audiologists went beserk when told I’d got my level 2, told me it’d ruin my hearing and speech… Funny that I found learning and using BSL (even a bit) as an adult actually improved my speech, communication skills and reception of all language! Watching my recently qualified as a ToD mum challenge this audiologist was a proud moment for me, she fought just as hard for my right to learn BSL and supported me financially to do so where she could as she had done for my right to the right kind of hearing aids, medical care and SEN support at school.
BSL makes parents feel out of control cos in the UK we don’t have a language learning culture, many of us are monoglots (only speak one language) and we get taught languages horribly, too little, too late at school. We aren’t Sweden or Finland where not only do people routinely speak 2 or 3 languages but that their government established funding/rights/infrastructure for deaf people’s parents to learn sign in an easier way than here in the UK. We need to remember, learning a new language is SCARY. Classes are expensive and not usually geared up to parents of young’uns and the Deaf community can seem terrifying and quite frankly alien and unwelcoming to the hearing parent of a deaf child.
We still need to keep fighting oppression of BSL in education, the stigma that BSL is for stupid people, that BSL is only there to pick up the pieces of hardcore-oralisms failures. We need to fight for BSL to be more easily, affordably (especially for deaf people & families) and culturally available.
While many Deaf or deaf people (I dislike D/d for many reasons) are welcoming to parents of deaf children and the deaf children themselves, some aren’t and we need to challenge that in our deaf communities – if WE want younger deaf to sign, we have to welcome their parents and siblings into that space because it is harder to learn sign in isolation or when families feel unwelcome and scared. We have to find a way to induct hearing people into the deaf communities while not letting them take over find a way of balancing that power that the hearing people have over us without reacting in an aggressive way. We need to make sure hardcore-manualism doesn’t end up turning people away entirely.
We deaf communities also need to stop being hyperbolic as I think Emily says here. There are issues with how CIs are presented, marketed, understood, but they are not in themselves evil and CI users, BAHA users, hearing aid users and those who don’t use any ‘aids’ may also still be deaf. We need to stop being as binary on the deaf side as some hearies are binary on the hearing side. We need to challenge the actual problems with CIs and BAHAs and hearing aids and hardcore-oralism and seek to change them rather than rejecting the whole concept outright which will not gain us anything.
I too would love to see some views/posts on the chicken *waves at the long suffering editor being pecked constantly* from people who have CIs implanted at different ages in their life. The experience of adult deafened people using CIs is very different from the deaf or deafened in childhood folks who get a CI either when very young or even that of a person deaf since childhood who gets CIs in adulthood. I would love to see some of those narratives and experiences.
Right, I need to stop rambling and walk to work. Woke me right up this post has, thanks Emily!
Siobhan
September 12, 2014
I have a cochlear implant. Wore hearing aids in both ears then overnight the hearing in my left ear vanished. I was 4 days shy of my 13th birthday when I had the surgery, only thing that bothered me was missing my birthday party lol! The process of tests was when I was 10/11, my mother had to make a decision of what would be best for me. Yes I hated her at the time for putting me through it but that’s due to my resistance to change and I’m thankful now she made that decision.
I’m now 24 after having my CI for over a decade, it impacted my life in a positive way. Heck I’m still learning new sounds on a daily basis. However if any negative people in the deaf community have a go at me for having a CI, they’ll be told where to go!
Robert Mandara
September 12, 2014
I used to think that implanting children without their consent was fundamentally wrong and that they should be allowed to wait and decide for themselves. Now that I have finally got a CI myself (at age 46) my view has changed. This is, of course, partly because the technology and procedures have matured.
Although the operation looks complicated and invasive, for the patient it typically involves rather less pain than having a root canal at the dentist. A child isn’t usually going to experience a great deal of pain and the investment in hearing makes it worth it.
Although you would think that the sound is really basic (with so few electrodes…) it is amazing how much you can hear and how clear it sounds. It takes time to learn how to hear with a CI and that’s where children have the advantage because they can learn so fast.
The only reason I would hesitate to give a child (or adult) a CI now is that the technology is marching on. The longer you wait, the better the technology becomes. But who can afford to wait? The world is full of beautiful sounds which put colour into life. Why choose to miss out on them?
Claire
September 12, 2014
If its a hot topic in the deaf community, its certainly a hot topic for hearing parents of deaf children like myself. My 2.5 year old is a BSL user and we have fought for him to attend the bilingual bicultural deaf nursery near us. We are all learning BSL – I am starting my level two next week (eek!). We are also just about to consent to an implant. The main point I would make though is that hearing parents are scared, and when your child is identified as deaf you get information on hearing aids, how to speak to them – very little if any support to sign or explore the deaf community. So when hearing parents make their first google search about deaf culture and find these vehement negative opinions they understandably run for the hills serving only to harm the deaf community in my view and having a direct negative impact on deaf children by pushing parents away. Every deaf person I have met has been wonderfully positive and encouraging. But this is not the experience of all parents and not often the message that stands out to hearing parents. There needs to be a big shift in the deaf community to actively seek out and welcome hearing parents without judgement – this is the only way to ensure the bright future of the deaf community which in may ways sits in the hands of hearing parents making these choices.
Stefan
September 12, 2014
I was going to write about my experiences and opinions, but Natalya’s post said it all. It is a brilliantly written post, and I agree entirely with the points she raised.
Giving her a job Limping Chicken!
Claire
September 12, 2014
Yes Natalya makes some excellent points, I would disagree that the CI makes parents feel like they are in control. For us it is absolutely not about control, in fact the opposite – giving our son both signing and hearing options so he can exert his own control and choices as he grows. One of the CI team recently asked me “what is your goal for your son, do you want him to be a talking and hearing child?” – my response was that its not within my control. I want him to be happy. His learning style, communication preferences and identity as well as his neuroanatomy, skills of his CI surgeon, his school environment, his Deaf role models – will all influence the outcome. I just want him to be happy.
Tim
September 12, 2014
I can understand why some people refer to the implantation of children as ‘abuse.’ Still, I don’t quite agree with it, as there is no intent to be cruel or abusive to the child, quite the opposite.
But when somebody has gone through it and then calls it abuse, their view should be respected and not dismissed or belittled as ‘hyperbole.’ They are owning and dealing with their experience as they see fit, perhaps retrieving the power that was taken from them.
And yes, sectarianist bullies will show animosity towards people who’ve had CIs, just like they show animosity towards deaf people who don’t sign “right.” Fortunately this is being given the contempt it deserves.
shaz
September 12, 2014
I can not say anything about that as I am not deaf but I think that all children should be taught BSL so it doesn’t matter if you are deaf or not you can still talk to everyone weather you have any hearing aids or not.
John David Walker
September 12, 2014
Thanks Charlie, I will relay your offer to the person in question.
Natalya
September 13, 2014
Hi Stefan,
Tell us about your experiences maybe? Even if yours are similar to mine I don’t want to take up all the space.
Thank you for the job compliment, that’s very sweet of you.
K
September 13, 2014
Thank you for this article. I am a Deaf parent of Deaf children, with a Deaf partner, we are sign language users… and my little girl got implanted at the age of 2. Being Deaf, culturally, has baffled some people as to how could I implant my Deaf child? Because of my personal experiences, I believe being firmly in being bilingual as the best way of moving forward in life. My daughter was so profoundly deaf that hearing aids wouldn’t have benefited her so that is why we decided on a C.I. The operation took a couple of hours, and she went home on the same day. And now she is thriving as a result of the C.I and is a very dedicated sign language user as well as learning how to speak. Yes, the process toward getting a C.I was stressful, but it was stressful for us as parents. She found it interesting going for all these strange tests with colourful toys and being able to do lots of drawings. Yes we couldn’t really explain to her that she was going in for an operation but a couple of hours after the operation, she was playing in the hospital playroom as if nothing had happened. Times have changed. The operation is a small cut behind the ear now as opposed to a huge cut over the entire scalp. And I can tell you right now, C.Is does not affect one’s Deaf identity. It is people’s WORDS that does more harm than C.Is.
secret
September 13, 2014
I only read like a couple of paragraphs because I have cochlear implants and love them if the child were to decide that they didnt want them they could always give them back. And childern are implanged from an early age so that the implants are benificial. All I want now from CI is one that isnt visible to the naked eye and that doesnt limit your hearing. Id love to be able listen 2 music through normal head phones and to hear when I go swimming. I don5 want to let my deadness hold me baxk and when I am using the CI it doesnt.
Sue MacLaine
September 13, 2014
Given the current climate where experiences of abuse are being uncovered after years of being denied, ignored, repressed, I find the sentence ‘no shred of evidence’ really offensive. Where has evidence been looked for? What would be classed as admissible evidence? To deny so categorically there has been no abuse is itself abusive.
Aled Owen
September 14, 2014
Sue. I would be grateful if you could explain more fully what it is that you find offensive.
Borrowed Mum
September 15, 2014
I love this article, as it’s far more balanced than many I’ve read!
I’m profoundly Deaf and a BSL user & chose to have a CI about 5yrs ago. I was very reluctant until I got to the point of realising that I’d never get access to sound from aids, and thought it was worth a go. I have amazing access to sound and love my processor, but also love the ability to turn it off when I want / need peace and quiet – like when my child is having a tantrum!
I have a child who has a total hearing loss due to extremely thin auditory nerves. At 3.5yrs, they had a cochlear implant, due to the fact they also have very low vision, in the hope that they may be able to access environmental sounds like fire engines and police cars – NOT to make them hearing, not to deny them their Deaf identity, but just to give them the option. My child is STILL Deaf, but loves their implant, and can access speech amazingly well, when we were told we would be lucky if they even accessed extremely loud sounds. They don’t have an awful lot of speech, but single words are coming, and I really don’t mind either way. We will always be a part of the Deaf Community and I can’t see how having a cochlear implant denies anyone access to the Deaf Community.
I think people forget that parents are normally trying their best to give their child the best possible future. Some are lead to believe that a CI and oral education is the right way, and I don’t think we can judge them either way, as we have to do what is best for their child.
claire
September 15, 2014
My little dude has hypoplastic nerves too so interesting and encouraging to hear of the usefulness of the implants for your son.
Borrowed Mum
September 15, 2014
Yep, my LO has extremely hypoplastic nerves, and they were not at all convinced a CI would work. There was no response to an EABR (not a standard ABR) on one side and questionable on the other side, but decided it would be with a go due to the VI. Now can understand all speech without facing the person, and adores the implant. Been approved for sequential now, as the hospital said it’s possible the other side may be as good or better.
claire
September 15, 2014
Wow thats exciting. We consent next week….and I start my level two BSL on Wednesday. I very happy with our bilingual bicultural approach 😀
Sarah Playforth
September 16, 2014
My view has shifted somewhat from when I wrote my poem (on my blog) about CIs, mainly due to reading the experiences of people who have had them? Personally, I would not have one but this is because of my own squeamishness about the op itself and revulsion at the thought of having foreign bodies in my head. I use hearing aids when I want to & enjoy silence when I don’t. If, as it seems, having CIs does not preclude BSL & if that is in the control of deaf people, then we need to help hearing people away from skewed perceptions about miracle cures, achieving hearing etc etc. As was said on a TV interview, CIs are just advanced hearing aids. Implanting babies & children is a separate issue & I feel if this is done without also giving access to other deaf people & to sign language, it is problematic.
Aled Owen
September 16, 2014
I agree with you Sarah – CIs don’t restore perfect hearing but my goodness they are, in my experience a big step on from hearing aids because aids can’t help if you have a 120 dB loss above a certain frequency for example. I can’t help you about your squeamishness, if there is such a word, but I went into theatre at 8.30am and recovered from the anaesthetic, got dressed and I was ready to go home by 11.30am – and didn’t need any painkillers. As for foreign bodies – I have had a pin in my ankle for 30 years and I don’t think about it. That is a decision you must make but I would ask you to reconsider. You can still choose silence by just detaching the processor. It’s magical
Lisa
February 25, 2015
Thank you SO much for writing this. My daughter is profoundly deaf – unfortunately my experience as her mother has been one where many in the deaf community believe I did not believe my daughter was perfect to begin with or that I was looking for a quick fix …
Why? Because I chose for her to have bilateral cochlear implants.
In my experience the many deaf adults I have met have had a heightened sense of anger in my decision for my daughters CIs. These strangers feel it is their right to tell me my child does not need to hear – by “changing her” I am perceived as everything from a bad mother, to instilling into my daughter she was not good enough. Whether people admit it or not there is a large majority of deaf people who defensively debate with you that CIs have a negative impact on the deaf community and deaf culture.
In my experience deaf people are angry. I have read many articles over the years where those with implants have “betrayed” the deaf community. I have had deaf people approach my daughter and I, accuse me of making the wrong decision. Without even knowing her medical background or how this decision was not taken lightly. We tried Auslan. We had a deaf tutor at one point as well. Our son who was younger than my daughter learnt more Auslan than she did. In fact we all did.
I have met only one deaf lady in the six years since my daughters CIs who accepted I did the very best I could as a mother of a little girl who did not choose to live a life with not only deafness but heart issues, heart operations, short stature, infertility and who cannot remember even her times tables at 12 years old. ONE lady. One deaf person who understood.
I will end with this – those of you who are angry at parents who choose for their child to have CIs – you pollute my the notion that parents have a right to make informed decisions about their child’s future. It’s not me or other mothers like me who have a problem it is the many who express your anger on this issue in very harmful and detrimental ways.
Enable young deaf people, young hearing impaired people, young people with hearing aides BAHAs or CIs. Enable – don’t disable based on hearing devices. My daughter LOVES her profound deafness – arguing with her brothers and taking her CIs off so she can’t hear him argue back. She loves taking them off in class so she can concentrate better on her work. She loves a silent bath at night – free from a noisy background. She loves having that power to choose when she wants to hear and when she needs silence. How I love that about her. But she told me recently what she loves most of all (besides the many things she said about having the ability to hear) was “hearing you mummy tell me in your own voice I LOVE you.”