The father of a 13-year old deaf girl from Leicester has claimed that she was forced to leave her football club after being left isolated by club officials and players.
Nick Ashford says that he felt “heart broken” watching his daughter struggle to understand what she was being asked to do and eventually being ignored by her team mates who stopped passing the ball to her.
Bethan Ashford is profoundly deaf and uses British Sign Language as her main form of communication. She has limited useful hearing and can also lipread.
Bethan began playing football at the age of eight for local team Cosby United, with the assistance of her father who would interpret the coach’s instructions.
He claims he was forced to withdraw her from the club after officials made no attempt to help Bethan or tackle the growing problem of her isolation in the team.
“It was bearable before because the kids and coaches were communicating and involving Bethan; but things change,” said Nick.
“They stopped involving her with the little conversations they were having. I could see that she wasn’t going to get the ball passed to her either. They were ignoring her in that respect as well. Bethan was just on her own all the time.”
Nick says he was desperate to improve the situation for Bethan. He bought sign language football cards to help the coaches communicate and suggested the kids learn basic sign language greetings, like “how are you,” but nothing happened.
“The club didn’t even photocopy the cards I gave them in the end. They didn’t want to use them so they were eventually just given back to me.”
“They never took anything on board, they just kept on communicating to Bethan like she could hear perfectly, so she was often completely left out.”
“The club’s welfare officer was supposed to bring us all together but didn’t act even though I raised Bethan’s predicament with her. We just had to leave for the sake of Bethan’s self-esteem.”
Cosby United is accredited as an FA Charter Standard Club which means that they abide by an equality policy among other policies and practices developed to offer players and parents assurance about the management of the club.
The equality policy states that the club will not discriminate against people with disabilities, the club is committed to a policy of equal treatment and to take positive action where inequalities exist.
Nick claims that the club ignored their own policy and did little to make allowances for Bethan.
In a statement, Mark Cox, the Vice Chairman of Cosby Juniors FC said:
“You can be assured that the club’s Equality Policy which has been ratified by the FA is adhered to at all times.
“Whenever a child joins a team with a disability if we feel it is appropriate we will invite a parent if they so wish to become part of the Coaching team something we did in the case to which you refer. We feel this contributes towards making the child feel welcome and helps with communication. In addition we always make referees aware of any disability and in the case of a player who is hard of hearing we ensure additional communications are allowed from the touchline.
“As a demonstration of this commitment a number of our coaches have attended sessions designed to help coach children with a range of disabilities. We have children both boys and girls in our other teams who have registered disabilities and they are encouraged to play in our mainstream sides. However should parents or children decide they don’t wish to play in our mainstream teams, since April last year, we can offer them the alternative of playing in our inclusive team.
“Clearly, as with any club, we can always improve on the way we do things and therefore we are constantly reviewing our policies and procedures and we welcome input particularly from parents as to how that can be achieved.”
“Finally the club would welcome a conversation with the parent to talk through any issues they may have to be able to retain a player who, after all, is still a member of the club.”
Recently Bethan has joined in training sessions with Great Britain’s Deaf Women’s team and is also regularly selected to represent the East Midland’s Centre of Excellence for deaf footballers.
“I don’t think Bethan or me would be happy going back to Cosby United.” Nick said.
“It was heart breaking as a father to watch Bethan be isolated that way. I wouldn’t put her in that situation again, no.
“There was no hope.”
By Andy Palmer, Deputy Editor
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Cross Mummy
March 31, 2015
That’s just awful, poor girl. Things like this should not be happening in the 21st century. Props to her dad for dealing with the situation so well and not going ape at everyone involved (as I would probably have done!). Bethan, you’re better than those suckers- good luck with your new team and future football career! Don’t let this get you down too much x
Hamish Drewry
March 31, 2015
I sympathise with Bethan. I suggest Bethan finds a better club and move on. Cosby “club” is not good enough and it is their loss. Good luck with England Ladies and East Midlands!
Dee Davies
March 31, 2015
I’m so sad to hear this. Sounds like the club needs deaf awareness training. From their reply I think they are quite open to that. Bethany. Please don’t let these things stop you from reaching your goals (excuse the pun there it was unintended). With determination, you can go far in life. x
Cathy
March 31, 2015
It is sad to read a story like this. But just because time is moving on doesn’t mean people do!! this is why deaf people usually set up their own events so that they are all together and have their own language in common with each other.
Iam glad Bethan has joined a deaf football group, much better for her. It is ALWAYS difficult in a hearing environment when hearing people do not know BSL to begin with and then they have to remember that one of them is deaf and to slow down.
All these points are anathema to the hearing world which is usually fast and smooth between them, with no repetitions and stops and starts. I have also said it is near impossible to force language on people, especially if they are not interested in the language. Hundreds of children drop learning Languages at school, so BSL is no different! It is to our downfall that we still hit this problem in all walks of life and nobody has money for Interpreters. Good luck Bethan in the Deaf football team xx
MW
March 31, 2015
Makes for sad reading……heard lots of tales from other deaf users wishing to access mainstream sports with great difficulties….I think it is about communication and respecting the needs of an individual and if this is not offered then there is exclusion. I don’t think one can lip-read while playing the sport. I find it is sad that we have to confront people to make them learn and respect our communication needs but if it was done “in your face” then they shut the door at you. Damage done. Football governing bodies really do need to revisit their policy on inclusion. I am sad she now has to be segregated into deaf world games and I am not saying that is bad news – just socially better.
kdb71
March 31, 2015
Awful.
If I was the dad, I’d start coaching her. I’m deaf and have played soccer/football for years. I’ve also coached my own children. It’s challenging but I was responsible for my own communication needs and lucked out on the teams I was on. In this case, the coach failed her. Granted she could have played on an inclusive team but why should she have had to? Good luck with another club. This club doesn’t deserve her.
Lana
April 1, 2015
This is a reason why we should save some Deaf Clubs who provide sports from closing down !!