FINALLY Verity has let me in the driving seat and time to reveal ALL her secrets *suspicious Verity devil eyes upon my soul*.
At home we mainly communicate via speech but sometimes we sign (when we get bored of talking). I can hear her when I am not looking at her.
However, Verity’s d/Deaf awareness on many occasions (too many!) goes slightly mental. She constantly tap-tap-tap-tap-tap-tap-tap’s on my arm to get my attention, this is to make herself feel better if I look at her by knowing I have understood what she has said.
After the repetitive tapping, I decide that I ought to give in and look at her because what she has to say must be “very” important.
Verity: “Want a drink?”
Is that it???!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!!!
Pff hearing people!!
There have also been moments when Verity has been talking or signing to me and I have zoned out to think about garages, Scotland, woodwork, dogs, what my next purchase will be at Screwfix.
Mmmmm….Screwfix *dribbles*.
Ahem! Moving on…she is still looking at me waiting for my answer. Dam! What did she say? I know, I’ll smile and nod to pretend I have understood EVERY word.
*smiles and nods*
A deaf smile does not have ANY affect on any person who has a high awareness of d/Deaf people and their quirks. Like Verity. The deaf smile is the danger zone. She will always ask me what she has just said.
I quickly scan the room searching for answers, my eyeballs look at the chairs, the squint skirting board and poppy wallpaper for clues. In the end, I just have to back down and say; “Sorry, I’m deaf, repeat.”
PS the deaf card does not work either. Boo!
Verity works as a Support Worker for people with a single/dual sensory loss (d/Deaf, blind, d/Deafblind) and her family are all hearing. Scott is hard of hearing, works as a Furniture Maker and has mixed d/Deaf and hearing family. They have been together for 4 years, engaged for 1 year and their wedding is next year. They say: “We have written a blog about the funny side of our d/Deaf and hearing relationship and we hope you enjoy reading it!” Read it here.
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Hartmut
August 14, 2015
I often have been able to pick out a “deaf” face in photos with people completely unfamiliar to me. I got correct between 70 and 80 % of cases. Once, in an exhibition of portrait paintings by deaf artists, I could identify the deaf model. There is always an expressive look emanating from the picture that gives it away.