I’m the sort of guy who can eat a lot and “run” it off a lot, so I’m a frequent visitor to food stores and recently visited a new My Local store, which is not really my local, but I venture anywhere where there’s food.
And it was here that I realised the concentration and mental gymnastics involved in lipreading people.
My Local has taken over Morrison’s local stores, so here I am in My Local in the quest to find lunch at a reasonable price, so I looked around for a meal deal. I don’t like asking staff questions, as it’s tiresome trying to lipread answers.
After some time looking around, and deciding that I had not been successful, I asked a member of staff how I would find a meal deal and she said: “Stab Mandy.”
My first thought was that the world had gone mad, I have to kill people for food! No, we haven’t gone that far, so I asked her to repeat and she repeatedly said: “Stab Mandy” … Gulp!
Her face was getting redder and frustrated and it was then that I started to notice that she has a lisp. I started to work out surrounding factors, as Sherlock Holmes would do, and here were the surrounding factors I could think of:
- My Local is very new
- Just taken over by Morrison’s
- Morrison’s does meal deals
- It’s possible that My Local doesn’t do meal deals
- The take-over happened very recently- possibly the previous Monday.
Ah! I realised she had said: “Stopped Monday.”
So I found other food and satisfied my appetite.
I think this sums up the fact that deaf people’s ability to lip-read is not just about what the person is saying, but to calculate surrounding factors on top of it!
Reg Cobb is a deaf father of three. Reg was born to deaf parents and went to a deaf school. He’s worked supporting people with disabilities for 20 years and now works for Gloucester Deaf Association. He loves making people laugh and looks on the bright side of life.
alicia
July 13, 2016
This made me laugh! Whilst it is true that mis-lipreading can lead to some hilarious scenarios, it is also very tiring. Furthermore, it can lead to some embarrassment, and in some cases shame. I like that you pointed out there are factors that affect our ability to lip-read with fluidity. I remember once I went to an interview and one of the interviewees had a glorious moustache, and I mean glorious! However, it seriously impeded my ability to understand the questions. In the end, as it was so obvious I had not heard, I had to explain that his beautiful moustache was not my friend. This lead to some awkward looks between the three of them and he remained silent for the rest of the interview. Needless to say I did not get the job! But the moustache made the interview worth going to.
Tina Lannin
July 13, 2016
Alicia’s story reminds me of an interview I went to many years ago, before I gained the confidence to tell unlipreadable people that I wasn’t able to lipread them. There were THREE men on the interview panel who were impossible to lipread. I tried to blag it, nodded my head, and I noticed the puzzled look on their faces. That interview seemed to last forever! I was desperate to leave and find “normal” people again as I can lipread most people and was winging interviews with my lipreading skills. That was the only interview I’ve had where I couldn’t lipread anyone at all! I can laugh about it now…
Tina
July 13, 2016
Reg – I like your grin. It makes me smile too 🙂
Christina Goebel
July 13, 2016
Those words are virtually the same lipreading: Stopped/Stab Monday/Mandy! Wow! Context clues really matter and when you can’t find any, that’s when the hilarity ensures, such as the time I thought my husband was telling me a plumber was coming to the house (we had no bathroom problems). I forgot what he was trying to say then, because “the plumber” is now a family joke when lipreading fails. When I get frustrated asking numerous times, they say, “the plumber,” and we crack up.