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Whether born deaf, deafened later in life simply a deaf aware hearie you will at some point no doubt have stumbled upon the golden rule of deafness. It’s the opposite of the Fight Club rule, which I can’t really get into.
If there were a welcome pack leaflet, it would be at the top of the list…
It’s a pretty simple rule really, so it’s kind of funny (in a rage inducing way) that so many people forget about it.
It’s not even exclusive to deaf people. No one likes being ignored/excluded etc, we’ve all been through it. We can all relate.
And now it has literally been proved by science (yes, SCIENCE!) that being ignored sucks!
According to scientists (dubious internet ones, yet scientists nevertheless) being giving the silent treatment, cold shoulder or whatever you want to call it can cause great emotional and even physical pain.
Get ready for some hardcore science…ready? OK.
Apparently, being ignored by a group or individual (even one that you think is a complete douche) will still register pain. It activates the anterior cingulate cortex which is the part of the brain that detects…wait for it…physical pain!
There’s even a big fancy word for it. Ostracism. Incidentally, it had nothing to do with ostriches.
So every time a hearie gives it the old “never mind”, “it doesn’t matter” or “don’t worry about it”, they might as well be literally, straight up just punching you in the face…with a chair.
So whoever you are, where ever you are (especially if deafies are involved, we deal with this crap all the time) respond to that email, send that text message and please do tell it again.
Being noticed is a huge deal and it really DOES matter.
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Teresa is a freelance film maker, photographer and full time cynic. At school, she was voted “Most likely to end up in a lunatic asylum”, a fate which has thus far been avoided. Her pet hates are telephones, intercoms and all living things. Follow her on Twitter as @TGarratty
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Hartmut
July 8, 2017
With regards to “science, that has been presented on the oralistic and audistic side of the education of the deaf is largely bullsh… Oralists and audistic educators claim to have scientific proof of their treatment of deaf children. They even did not use the scientific method, which calls for testing their hypotheses. The results of the oral and audio-verbal methods have all been dismal on the majority of deaf and hard-of-hearing students. They use bogus proof based on the top 10-20% of this population. Even the today’s population with early implantations of CI do not achieve statistically better linguistic and academic results than the Deaf children of Deaf parents. Studies comparing these two populations are all hard science.
The real and most fundamental Golden Rule in treating deafness is accepting wholeheartedly the existence of deaf people and treat them as a socio-cultural ethnic group that must not vanish from the mankind.
NEVER DESIRE THE WORLD TO CONSISTS OF HEARING PEOPLE ONLY !
PLEASE NEVER THINK DEAFNESS IS A CALAMITY — EVER !