Well, dear Limping Chicken readers, I have a confession to make. Most people would say I’m a chilled out person. And I am, most of the time… But there are certain places and things that I reaaaally don’t like. So I either avoid them or I suffer through them. Intrigued? Read on – these are the top 5 things I tend to avoid, because of being deaf.
- Lifts. When I was 12 years old, a (deaf) friend and I got stuck – for all of 3 minutes- in a lift in British Home Stores. Regardless of it being such a short time to be stuck between floors, the fearful realisation that we were trapped in a steel box and neither of us could hear what was going on was enough to stay with me for life. Nowadays I’m happy to go in a lift with other people but if I’m alone? I’ll take the stairs, thanks.
- Drive-throughs. They were bad enough when you had to lipread staff from an awkward head position, but seeing as most restaurant drive throughs take orders through intercoms now there is absolutely no way you’ll find me there. This is also the same for car parks with barriers where you need to press a button or call a system to enter… erm, hello? is anyone there? Was that a voice speaking or my hearing aid buzzing….?!
- Dark places. My family love teasing me with the memory of how I screamed the place down at the Black Country museum during a trip down to the pitch black mines. In my defence, I was only five. But truth be told I’d probably react the same way now. I won’t eat in dark restaurants and I always decline eye masks or dimmed lighting during (rare) spa treatments or the like. Darkness makes me feel vulnerable.
- Waiting areas. These kind of places are unavoidable, yet they’re such a pain in the neck for deaf lipreaders. “Take a seat” receptionists say. They don’t add “and remain on edge, hyper vigilant, in case anyone of us calls you over.” From doctors surgeries and pharmacies to shopping tills and hotel desks, having to wait to be called is a nightmare. Did they call me just now or was that a cough?
- Electronic toys. For my children, I must add. It doesn’t matter how ‘educational’ or ‘fun’ that a speaking, singing toy claims to be… I won’t be buying them. For one thing, I’m never really sure if they’re working. And secondly, I have no idea what they’re saying! *Suspicious Mum alert*… So I try to steer my kiddies away from the beeping, singing, noisy electronics, as much as I can. We can make plenty of noise ourselves, without the help of any techy toys – believe me!
So there it is, my little list. What are your bug-bears? Do you avoid anywhere in particular because of your deafness? Or do certain things really push your buttons? Go on, do tell…
Rebecca-Anne Withey is a freelance writer with a background in Performing Arts & Holistic health. Read more of Rebecca’s articles for us here.
She is also profoundly deaf, a sign language user and pretty great lipreader.
Her holistic practices and qualifications include Mindfulness, Professional Relaxation Therapy, Crystal Therapy and Reiki.
She writes on varied topics close to her heart in the hope that they may serve to inspire others.
samthornesite
April 18, 2018
Swimming play dates with kids and their parents. Instant recipe for a whole hour and a half of understanding precisely nothing. My nightmare is having to nod gravely and make all the right noises while someone’s confiding me about their domestic strife with the kids playing havoc in the background…
lyndasharp2
April 18, 2018
Ha! I got into trouble over my two year old’a toy electronic train which repeated non-stop the peeping pooping tooting that drove everybody crazy. That was forty years ago and I still get the blame. Yes, waiting rooms a nightmare for all deaf people with the fearsome disembodied ‘next please’. Now it’s the screen which booms out your full name in full view. It either one of the other and all we want is a friendly face indicating it’s your turn.
samthornesite
April 18, 2018
So true about the waiting system – what’s wrong with nice, anonymous numbers on tickets with only the number showing up on the screen/being boomed across the surgery? (Wouldn’t want to discriminate against those who need the volume)
Tim
April 18, 2018
Absolutely. The waiting areas thing is very stressful.
Different people have all sorts of very understandable reasons for avoiding all sorts of places, occasions, events etc. Less judgemental assumptions, more understanding required.
Anne
May 8, 2018
driving with a passenger on a long distance particularly on a motorway where the car engine noise is louder and they talk in a low voice all the way …. I can’t watch them talking and so don’t hear a thing said and just guess from the ‘tone’ and not nod and agree … I find it uncomfortable and frustrating 😟
Dimiter Bankov
May 11, 2018
…since 2.5 years we at BrainHUB Lab develop an universal mobile gesture-recognition & gesture-tracking platform GR for real-time sign-languages translation into acoustic voice… Thanks to Rebeccas note here we consider some circumstances our system probably will not help – because it is designed to organize communication between 2 persons positioned at not longer distance from each other than the Bluetooth range, 10 to 20 meter… We’ll consider this new racourse also…. https://brainhub.co