Back when I was at Mary Hare sixth form, each morning my dorm mate, Fi, would instantly reach for her hearing aid upon waking.
“Do you really need that in so early?” I’d ask.
“I can’t live without it!” She exclaimed!
Seriously? She can’t live without her hearing aid? I scoffed.
Fast forward all these years and when the hubby and I were recently discussing what objects we would have to take if we were stranded on a desert island, he listed his iPhone as his first choice whereas I chose… my hearing aids. (And batteries of course!)
So what’s changed? Why can I no longer live without my hearing aids? Well, I’m more deaf for a start. Plus I’ve got kids and any kind of silence is suspicious…
But the fact that the thought of being without my hearing aids induced a wave of panic inspired me to take on a challenge.
24 hours with no hearing aids.
Ultimately, it’s 24 hours in silence! And I couldn’t hole up like a hermit at home, that would be far too easy. Besides we had plans and a restaurant date. Eek!
So what did I discover? And more to the point could I stop myself from popping my hearing aids back in? Read on to find out.
1. Hello Tinnitus.It’s a common byproduct of deafness; the whooshing, ringing, rumbling and sometimes screaming in your ear holes. I’d forgotten how constant and peculiar my tinnitus is and how overwhelmingly LOUD the ringing can be. Took a while to get used to but after some distraction techniques I’d forgotten it was there…
2. I had no idea how loud my voice was. Ordering in a restaurant, I felt vulnerable without sound… how do I know how loudly or quietly to speak? I decided to jump right in anyway and asked (shouted!) for an Amazonian mocktail with relative ease. Answering the bartender when he asked me random questions, however, was a different matter…
3. I wasn’t so confident lipreading anymore. We all know that lipreading is mostly guesswork but I realised that the odd sounds I’d been hearing via my hearing aids had been useful cues especially when it came to lipreading new people. So in the end I asked my hubby to “interpret” for me (even though he’s deaf-er than I am!) and with some gestures and telepathy we managed to figure out what the bartender was saying.
4. My ears felt freeeeee! I hadn’t noticed how blocked up and plugged in I felt with 2 hearing aids in all day long. Yet when I spoke now – even though I couldn’t hear myself – my voice felt clearer and less nasally. I particularly enjoyed belting out The Phantom of the Opera and not having my hearing aids cut off when I sang too loudly. Oh and my sunglasses also fit better on my ears too which was aesthetically pleasing 😉
5. It was so much easier to drift off into my own world. This was a strange one but being in silence all day had a dream-like, surreal quality to it. I associate silence with sleep, and so I felt like I hadn’t fully woken up. I daydreamed more and went into my own bubble of thoughts and creative ideas. Which is great being a writer! But if you’re always feeling disconnected from the world you do need an anchor somehow.
During these 24 hours I admit I was very tempted to whip my hearing aids back in. So much that I even carried them in my handbag when we went out… just in case!
Watching the television in silence, I noted I could still detect accents and I began to “imagine” soundtracks and Muzak playing. My brain even imagined how people’s voices sounded!
And the next morning after I’d completed the challenge, I ate my brekkie in comfortable silence and completely forgot that there was an option to hear sounds.
Could I live without my hearing aids? If I really had to? I reckon I could. And on the off chance that there was ever an apocalyptic event that wiped out the worlds supply of hearing aid batteries, it’s probably a good thing not to be so attached to them anyway.
But in the case of going to a desert island, knowing me I’d still probably sneak them into my backpack… for emergencies, of course!
What would you take to a desert island?
Rebecca-Anne Withey is a freelance writer with a background in Performing Arts & Holistic health. Read more of Rebecca’s articles for us here.
She is also profoundly deaf, a sign language user and pretty great lipreader.
Her holistic practices and qualifications include Mindfulness, Professional Relaxation Therapy, Crystal Therapy and Reiki.
She writes on varied topics close to her heart in the hope that they may serve to inspire others.
Kevin
July 18, 2018
Everything will be useless after one month on stranded island. Your best hope to find your next meal.
Jo Dennison Drake
July 18, 2018
LOved your comments and agree with you totally. I often now as a single Mum, when my daughter is away at school not bother with my hearing aids on to give my ears a break but the tinnitus is a right pain and if it gets too much I put my aids back on and have loud music belting out!
Ruth
July 18, 2018
An interesting and thought provoking posting. But just too hot for my brain to come up with sensible thoughts!
Hartmut Teuber
July 18, 2018
I on the contrary savor the silence. Each time someone kicks an his seat in a subway car in rhythm to the music that goes through the wires to his ears, it disturbs me a great deal and I have to ask him to stop kicking against a metal surface under his seat. I just let him swing with his body to the music, but no stamping floor on the floor or on the sides of his seat. I just watch his monotonic repetitive body movements, and wonder how such music causing those stupid movements exhilarates him. Well, they are ab+surd anyway (ab=not plus surd=deaf)!
An interesting question I would like to ask: If you decided to experience silence for say one whole week, how severe would your feeling of grief be for the “loss of hearing”? Or would you get adjusted to not hearing at all much quicker than other late deafened adult?
I did ask my beginning hearing ASL-students to write their experiences of not hearing at all for 12 hours. I did get contrived statements from them who just wanted to write what they believed to be appealing to me. Phony statements, showing they had not tried to experience that kind of on-going silence.
Hartmut Teuber
July 18, 2018
Ruth, I guess you are hearing. If so, just try to shield your hearing from any sounds that surround you and keep doing your normal activities, except listening to music and news. Difficult task to find such a perfect simulation of being completely deaf, I presuppose.