This was originally posted on Ai-Media’s site here, and is shared by kind permission.
Deaf and hard-of-hearing people often experience some pretty strange questions and comments from hearing people. To tackle some of those questions, we’ve made a list of 7 things Deaf people want hearing people to know. Check it out!
1. Lip reading isn’t easy!
Statistically, people who read lips only understand about 30 percent of what’s being said, and a lot of meaning is gathered purely from context. Everyone speaks differently, some people have accents or mustaches, while others don’t move their mouth much while speaking, so it shouldn’t be assumed that a deaf person can read your lips. Feel free to use other ways to communicate such as with a pen and paper or a phone.
2. Don’t play games with a person’s deafness
Deaf people don’t appreciate others “playing games” with their deafness. Doing things like covering your mouth to test whether they will be able to understand you or yelling “Can you hear me now?” just aren’t funny, so don’t try it.
3. Don’t make fun of sign language
“Oh I know sign language! *flips the middle finger*” PLEASE don’t do this. Sign language is an important part of Deaf culture and shouldn’t be made fun of. Why not ask if they can teach you a few signs instead?
4. Not all deaf people know sign language
Following on from the last point, not all people who are deaf know how to sign. 90% of people who are born deaf are born into hearing families and many of them aren’t given the opportunity to learn sign language growing up. Everyone is different, some may decide they don’t want to learn sign language, and others may be trying to learn later on in life.
5. Meet somewhere with good lighting
Having a conversation in a place with good lighting will greatly help someone who is Deaf or hard of hearing to understand what you’re saying. Trying to have a conversation in a dimly lit pub isn’t going to work very well. Lip reading and facial expressions can play an important role in communication for a deaf person. So if they can’t see your face, chances are they’re not going to understand what you’re saying either.
6. Not all deaf people are the same
Hearing loss is a spectrum, everyone is different and has different types of hearing loss. There are also many different terms for deafness including Deaf, deaf and hard of hearing. Someone may prefer to be identified by a particular term and be offended by another term, so the best option is to ask!
7. Lack of hearing doesn’t mean lack of ability
This really goes without saying, but Deaf people can do anything a hearing person can do, except hear. Deaf people are completely capable of leading a quality life, they can drive, have a job and have successful relationships.
Kevin
August 24, 2018
IF you are online gamer. Please be sure upload your profile “Hard of Hearing- Drop the Mic” that way you get less hassle than yell you and less get boot out.
Hardcore Gamer Kev Gibbo. Tag me if you lucky on Ps4 only.
Cathy Alexander
August 24, 2018
Good list of things to know here. However I don’t quite agree that Deaf people can do anything hearing people can do, especially in the jobs market. Would a Deaf person manage in a call centre, like hearies? Not at all. Would we manage in the Police on the beat with a walkie talkie? Not at all. Would we manage as firefighters covered in heavy gear n tackling fires? Not at all. Would we manage as surgeons in hospital where masks have to be worn (that would include an interpreter with mask on)? Not at all.
I hate it when people trot out the phrase “Deaf people can do anything hearing people can do”. It isnt true and never was precisely BECAUSE we are deaf!
Claire N
August 26, 2018
It’s not impossible to do those jobs if you’re deaf, there are examples:
https://www.firerescuemagazine.com/articles/print/volume-10/issue-8/firefighter-safety/hearing-impaired-firefighters.html
http://www.ucdmc.ucdavis.edu/welcome/features/2011-2012/12/20111207_som_deaf_student.html
https://www.officer.com/training-careers/hiring-promotion/news/20998596/deaf-woman-becomes-texas-police-officer
Hartmut Teuber
August 26, 2018
Well, of course, we cannot do the job where hearing is the ONLY means to receive information. But if we make the communication accessible to visual means, we can do. The call center ought to be accessible to deaf callers using video and text. Surgeons and nurses could use sign language and fingerspelling. The same goes for firefighters. The use of walkie-talkie are passe, we can use text and video on our cell phones.
Another item, we want to emphasize hearing people that they abandon the prejudices of thinking that inability to hear is something in need of a cure, poses safety hazards, increases the isolation of deaf people, and decreases the quality of life. This is most fundamental and should lead the list here.
Chris Bradley
August 26, 2018
I have experienced isolation and a lower quality of life because of my deafness. Also i have been in situations that have left me in physical danger too.
I accept that this is my experience but am sure that given the statistics about mental health issues being common amongst deaf people that i an far from alone.
Positive thinking is fine for some but to others who i feel are in the majority it comes as a personal insult in that it denies the sheer struggle involved in coping with this cruel disability
Toby
August 30, 2018
Thanks for writing this up. I realized there might be a difference between “want you to know” and “want you to do” because I thought of something I wish hearing people would do. Achem.
Hearing people, you might be from a culture where your hands never rise above your waist, and your mouth only moves enough to let the air from your wind pipe escape. You might be from a culture where touching another human is tantamount to stomping on their personal space.
As deafies, we know this, trust me, we see this all the time. How many times have we turned our head, only to see a rather annoyed human glaring at us, and sometimes, nearly imperceptibly, air escaping their mouth, and a light waft of steam rising from their head. “We must be in the way, or next in line, or dropping an anvil on their toe,” we think to ourselves.
The remedy here is simple. Open your cultural norms a little, in the name of diversity and acceptance, and use your hands. Pat us on the shoulder, wave, point, and maybe gesture. We deafies are just like you, happy to move and/or very sorry about your toe.