Elisa Nuevo Vallin: The importance of an inclusive environment at home (BSL)

Birthdays are usually filled with joy, laughter, and camaraderie. However, a recent experience at my deaf friend’s birthday party shed light on the importance of breaking down communication barriers and the significance of early sign language learning.

As a CODA (Child of Deaf Adults), my connection to the deaf community has been an integral part of my life. Recently, my friend invited me to his birthday celebration, an event that would turn out to be a moving reminder of the challenges faced by the deaf community, and the importance of creating an inclusive environment.

The party was in full swing, with friends and family gathered in a circle, chatting animatedly in British Sign Language (BSL). The atmosphere was vibrant, filled with the expressive gestures and facial expressions that make sign language a unique form of communication. However, the moment took an unexpected turn when my friend’s mum joined the circle.

“Stop it, I don’t know what you’re saying,” she exclaimed, looking confused — I’d even say irritated.

It was clear that the language barrier was an unwelcome interruption for her. My friend, ever resilient, replied with a wry smile: “Welcome to my world.”

In that instant, the stark reality of being deaf in a predominantly hearing world hit home. 

The feeling of isolation, of being left out at the dinner table, known as “dinner table syndrome,” was a daily reality for my friend. His mother’s inability to understand the conversation happening right in front of her highlighted the missed opportunities for connection and the strained relationship between the deaf and hearing worlds.

As my friend turned back to our signing circle, the incident served as a touching reminder of the importance of learning sign language, especially in the early years. Deaf children often face challenges in accessing language and developing communication skills, which can lead to social and educational barriers. Early exposure to sign language not only enhances communication but also fosters a strong bond between parents and their deaf children. Discover my personal journey teaching sign language to my baby here.

The incident shed light on a bigger issue: deaf awareness and the importance of being open-minded. When we hesitate to learn sign language, it keeps us from truly connecting and can make deaf individuals feel left out. It’s more than just aiding the deaf; it’s about celebrating a beautiful and expressive form of communication that brings people together and breaks down barriers.